By Mike Petersen of Mason City –
February-Valentines, it’s the month of romance. I have a challenge for you guys, how about starting now we treat all the ladies with total respect and not just as an object to fulfill our desires. I’m sure society won’t think it’s cool but how cool are you if you just go along with society anyway? Don’t replace true love and romance with lust and selfishness. That is the first thing on so many people’s minds, how to score that they have total disregard for the other person. Many things in a person’s life such as abuse, chemical dependency, and other things effect the choices they make. Some people use sex to get away from the rest of their life because it is so bad they don’t want to face it. You might be taking advantage of someone without even knowing. Ignorance is no excuse. Try having a relationship with somebody without including sex and you will be labeled as just friends. Not that labels matter, but it illustrates the point of how society views the issue. There are other ways you can distinguish a romance from a friendship besides sex. How about all those great experiences in life that can be made even better as a shared experience with just that one special person. Or those little things that would be meaningless, but turn into a great experience only because of who they are shared with. How about loving somebody so much that you want to get to know every single detail of their existence. Then you can find true happiness knowing you had something to do with their happiness. Even in the bad times, you will feel the other’s pain so much as if it were yours that it actually lessens theirs. This is real love. I’m not trying to be a prude, if you are lucky enough to be with the right person indeed enjoy everything together, but there is something more. For anyone who hasn’t found the right person yet, you can do something to. Sex sells, doesn’t mean you have to sell out to sex. All those girls in the magazines, tv, and movies….yeah, they are real people to, get rid of that trash. If you know somebody who’s lonely or has had a history of being taken advantage of, how about taking her out and showing her a true good time this Valentine’s day and don’t let her compromise herself, show her she is worth more than that. Her happiness might bring you more joy than you ever expect.