Speed dating is like networking but for love. It’s fast, fun, and slightly terrifying. But if done right, it can be a great way to meet new people without swiping until your thumb starts hurting.
If you’re considering trying out speed dating, or if you’ve tried it before and felt like you were stuck in a loop of awkward small talk, this guide is here to save you.
Let’s break down the essential dos and don’ts so you can walk in with confidence, make a great impression, and maybe even leave with a promising connection.
DO Show Up Early
Give yourself time to check in, freshen up, and get comfortable with the space.
Showing up early helps reduce nerves and anxiety, and gives you a chance to scope out the scene before the timer starts ticking. It also shows that you’re punctual and care about reservations.
DON’T Talk About Exes
This should be obvious, but it happens more often than you would think.
No one wants to be compared to someone’s ex during a first impression. They also don’t want to hear your struggles with your previous relationship, or how “crazy” your ex was.
Stay focused on the present and on the person in front of you.
DO Prepare a Few Good Questions
The whole point of speed dating is to get to know someone in just a few minutes.
Avoid the “So, what do you do?” and other generic questions. Choose ones that can reveal personality, values, and humour. Think of something more fun, like:
- What’s a weird talent you have?
- What’s your comfort movie?
- If money didn’t exist, what would you be doing right now?
You don’t need a whole script. Just a few conversation starters can help you stand out.
DON’T Overshare
Yes, vulnerability is great, but there’s a time and place for it. The second round of speed dating probably isn’t the moment to share your relationship traumas or other crises.
Keep things light and save the deep talks for later. You don’t want to scare away the other person when you barely know each other’s names.
DO Keep an Open Mind
You might not meet “the one” in only five minutes, but that doesn’t mean that the person across from you isn’t worth talking to.
Chemistry between people isn’t always instant. Give them a chance. And even if it doesn’t turn romantic, you could still meet someone who’s interesting, funny, or inspiring. Platonic relationships are great, too!
DON’T Be a Robot
It’s easy to fall into autopilot mode when you’re answering the same questions over and over. But the people you’re meeting aren’t identical.
Try to treat each date like a fresh conversation. Keep your energy up, stay curious, and don’t be afraid to show off a bit of your humour.
Also, make sure to give the other person room to respond. If you’re been talking for two minutes straight and haven’t asked a question, it might be time to pause and pass the mic.